How To Find A Woman For A Threesome
If you're hoping to find a woman for a threesome, here's the thing that matters most: she's choosing too. The people who have good luck are the ones who treat that as obvious from the very first message.
Remember she's choosing too
Everything you say in the first few messages tells her what you'd be like in the room. Be patient, be curious about her as a person, and don't act as if the answer is already yes.
She's deciding whether she likes you, whether she trusts you and whether she wants this at all.
Look where people are open to it
Approaching someone who hasn't said she's interested usually goes badly. It's far easier to look where people have already said what they want. On Threesomes Dating, profiles say what each person is after, so you can read before you write. You can narrow the list by gender, orientation and location, and joining is free.
If you're a couple
Say so straight away, and set up a joint profile so she knows she'd be meeting both of you. Be clear about what you're offering and what's off the table. Our page for couples looking for a third covers the conversations to have first, and the unicorn dating page explains a term you'll see a lot.
If you're single
Everything above still applies. Be honest about what you're looking for and give it time. Some women prefer to meet a couple, and some like to get to know someone first. Either way, a no is a complete answer.
Do this, not that
Do
- Read her profile and mention something in it.
- Say if you're a couple.
- Ask before sending any explicit photo.
- Move at her pace.
- Meet somewhere public and tell a friend.
Don't
- Send the same message to everyone.
- Push after a no.
- Pretend to be single when you're not.
- Pile on pressure if she goes quiet.
- Treat her like an accessory.
What to say first
Keep it short, friendly and specific. Here's one way a couple might open.
“Hi, we're a couple and we liked your profile, especially the bit about cooking. We're taking our time with this, so no pressure. Would you like to chat?”
Staying safe
Chat for a while before you meet. Pick a public place for the first time, tell a friend where you'll be and agree your limits beforehand. If anything feels off, trust that and walk away.
Quick questions
How do I find a woman for a threesome near me?
Join, then search by location and narrow the list down to what you want. Read a profile before you message her.
What if she says no?
Thank her and leave it there. A no, or no reply at all, is a full answer.
Does it cost anything?
Joining is free. VIP is optional and adds unlimited messaging.
How private is it?
You choose what your profile shows, and private messages are encrypted.