How To Find A Threesome
Most people who want a threesome run into the same problem: they have no idea where to start. Bars are a long shot, asking friends gets awkward, and a regular dating app isn't built for that conversation. This is a plainer way to go about it, whether you're single or half of a couple.
Know what you want first
Before you message anyone, spend ten minutes on the basics. Are you after a one-off, or something that might happen more than once? Are you single, or looking as a couple? What mix are you hoping for? You don't need every answer, but the ones you give should be honest, because the first person you talk to will ask.
Where to look
Friends of friends and social events work for some people. The trouble is you're guessing who's interested, and a wrong guess can be awkward for a long time. It's easier to look somewhere everyone already knows why they're there.
That's what Threesomes Dating is for. Profiles say what people want, so you can read first and write second. You can narrow things down by gender, orientation and location, and it's free to join.
Write a profile people reply to
Keep it short and true. Say whether you're single or a couple, say what you're hoping for, and add a photo you're happy with. Mention what you're not up for, too. A profile that sets a boundary tells people you'll respect theirs.
Skip the long list of demands and the lines copied from somewhere else. People can tell.
Starting the conversation
Read their profile before you write, then mention one specific thing from it. That small detail shows you actually read it. If you're a couple, say so in the first message instead of saving it for later. Ask a question rather than making a request, and keep it light.
“Hi, I liked what you said about weekend trips. Do you get away much?”
Take it slowly
Chat for a while before you meet, and try a video call if everyone's up for it. Meet somewhere public the first time and tell a friend where you'll be. Talk about limits before anyone is in the room, and agree that any of you can stop at any time without explaining why. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't right.
Mistakes to skip
- Rushing to meet before there's any rapport.
- Being vague about what you actually want.
- Hiding that you're a couple until later.
- Pushing past a no, or a slow reply.
- Treating the third person like a prize instead of a person.
Quick questions
Do I need a partner to find a threesome?
No. Singles and couples can both join. Just say which one you are on your profile.
How do I find someone near me?
Once you've joined, search by location and narrow the results down to what you're after. You can set how far you're willing to go.
Is it free to join?
Yes. Joining is free, and an optional VIP membership adds unlimited messaging if you ever want it.
Is it private?
You decide what your profile shows, and private messages are encrypted.